Do you want a better sex life?

Or perhaps your partner is forward and ready to jump in with “do you want to have sex tonight?’’ while you need some love and affection first in order to feel sexual. In other cases, you may be so angry and resentful toward your partner that you have lost all sexual desire. 

Exploring and understanding these dynamics often results in a huge improvement in the sex life of the couples I work with.

Erectile Disorder: The most common causes of ED are trauma, stress, emotional issues and relationship issues.

For example, past trauma may impact how you perceive sex. On the other hand, you may be so stressed at work that you can’t concentrate on sex, or perhaps you have performance anxiety because you don’t feel good about yourself. Alternatively, you may be unable to feel love, or be angry at your partner and have lost all sexual desire for her.

The anxiety some men experience about ED can cause a vicious circle, where the anxiety about having ED contributes to further ED.

Since erectile disorder may have biological as well as psychological causes, a combination of treatments is often used. In addition to medication, sexual therapy is both important and powerful in ED management.

Hypersexuality: Do you worry that you have a “sex addiction”, or that your desire for sex is out of control? Hypersexuality mostly affects men, and is likely the reason you find yourself watching pornography and masturbating alone several times a day.

Many hypersexual men I have worked with felt a lot of shame about their behaviour and hid it from their partners. Some of these men were also prone to cheat on their partners repeatedly to satisfy their sexual impulses.

If that sounds like you, I can help. When we understand the root causes of your hypersexuality, you will come to see that it’s not your fault and nothing to be ashamed of. Together, we will find and develop other patterns of behaviour in your sex life.

Vaginismus: Vaginismus is the involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles, making penetration difficult or impossible. Many psychological factors can contribute to vaginismus. You may have been sexually abused as a child, or raped or sexually assaulted in adulthood. You may be afraid of pain during sexual intercourse. You may fear losing control. You may be self-conscious about your body. You may not trust your partner or any partner.

If any of these are true for you, and if you think you have vaginismus, sexual therapy – in conjunction with physical treatments – can help you deal with the underlying factors and make intercourse possible and enjoyable for you.

• Low sexual desire
• Premature or delayed ejaculation
• Body image concerns that influence sex
• Pain during intercourse
• Difficulties with orgasm
• Sexual orientation issues
• Gender dysphoria & transgender issues
• Sexual abuse
• Sexual issues in aging